
Words by Psychotherapist Jane Faulkner
My son is pre-teen and started to develop all of the attitudes and resistances of a teenager. One of our biggest battles is over screen time. I have a rule of one hour a day of any screen TV and computer included – I think that is more than enough! I realize that being computer literate is an important part of our life today, however, I am concerned with the amount of screen time that each of us has in a day. Studies are limited on the impact of screens upon us, however, researchers and mental health specialists are starting to link the following with increased screen usage:- Reduced- social development, social skills, academic progress, physical activity, health and wellbeing, attention span, resilience and ability to cope with stress.
- Increased- moodiness, agitation, hyperarousal, sleep issues, anxiety and depression, difficulties in forming friendships and relationships and even risk of suicide.


Ash says
So glad to hear someone addressing this issue! I feel so alone as a mum trying to urge my kids to not be on devices. In the holidays my eldest son was down in the dumps most days because I limited his time on the I pad. My husband and I then decided this was unhealthy and had no devices over the long weekend, we explained this to the kids- we could read, play games, swim and go for walks at the beach but no computers. The weekend was so nice and proved that we can live without devices, in fact I find everyone is so much happier without them. Thanks for talking about this!
Georgia Harding says
Yes I agree with the feeling alone Ash. We have very strict rules with screen time (none Monday to Friday unless for homework) and I know my kids are better off when they aren’t watching TV or looking at an iPad. I can tell immediately when they have had too much time on screens, their mood and whole disposition changes for the worse. I’m finding the peer pressure tough as well now as my daughter (almost 12) thinks I treat her unfairly because all her friends are on their devices after school. Big sigh, tough gig this parenting! G x
Livi says
While research is limited it is still relevant. As a counsellor I have seen the serious side effects of screen time on children and adults. Like most mums I can also see the effect on my own boys’ behaviour.
We need to wait for science to help educate the population, but as parents we don’t need to wait for scientific data to regulate our own homes when we have real experiences with our own children. Since when did we elevate science above our own instincts or common sense. You are doing a great job at noticing the behavioural change. I find many parent’s don’t and when they are educated they don’t want to lose this electronic babysitter. Sadly this need is greater than their need to protect their child’s mind and future.
Georgia Harding says
I agree, instinct always wins for me. Glad we’re on the right track Gx